Coaching Essential

 

Six essential things to know about ourselves.

 

1. We are not clear until we get clear?

Our lives are spent doing what we are not clear of.We keep doing the same things over and over again in futile attempt. Until we get clear what we are doing so that we can move on and express our values.

 

    2. What are our needs?

Each of us has a unique set of critical needs that, until completely satisfied, keep us from reaching our potential. Coach assist client to identify, articulate and satisfy these critical needs.

 

   3. What our special gifts are?

Everyone has a special, unique gift to share with others. However, few people move far enough along the path of personal and professional development to be able to orient their lives around their gifts. Much of the work the coach does is to uncover the obstacles in the way of the client seeing that gift clearly.

 

   4. What are your core values?

Values are those activities which turn you on, like creativity, learning, playing, loving..etc. Values are what we tend to do after our needs are met and after we are complete with the past (hypnosis comes into stage). Values are not morals; values are our essence.

 

   5. What we really want for ourselves?

Most people do not know what they really want. Yes, they have a wish list and a should want list, but because most people still don’t have their needs met and values clear, their wants are muddled and exaggerated. The coach can help a person discern what they really want – what will make them happy. Wants are optional; they add to a life, they don’t give life as a value or need does.

 

   6. What do we want for others?

When we are well taken care of and in good shape, it is natural to want to give and assist others. Some people have a vision for others, or for the world that motivates them; others want the people around them to be happy and healthy. Anyway you look at it, it is a sign of advanced personal development when we want to help others and we can afford it (time, love, money).

 

What you may experience before first session.

 

Many clients report one or more of the following experiences prior to their first session:

• Curiosity

• Doubtfulness

• Excitement

• Unexpected negative emotions

• Uncertainty about the coaching process

 

What you can expect of your coach in your first session.

 

• Confidentiality – all of the interactions (conversations, email, faxes..etc) will remain strictly confidential. The information will not be shared with anyone without your express consent.

• Availability – you may contact your coach outside scheduled sessions and encourage staying in touch via email. This provides an accessible way to monitor your progress and to add extra insights during your coaching journey.

• Communication – coach will always reply to your communications within 48 hours (except when out of town or on holidays).

• Commitment and integrity - coach will coach you to the highest standards of integrity, honesty, professionalism and respect.

• Nonjudgmental Attitude – there is no judgment of right or wrong.

• Tenacity about your progress – be aware of the discomfort feelings from honest feedback, challenging questions, assignments designed to challenge your comfort zone.

• Accountability  - be responsible and committed to your actions.

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Terms of coaching:

 

• We invite you to relate coaching as a process. Many people create change for themselves in a short period of time. However, to refine and sustain the change takes several months. Therefore, we begin the coaching process with 3-month commitment and may be extended on a month-to-month basis.

• Day and time of sessions will be agreed upon and scheduled to be repeated weekly. If you need to reschedule an appointment, please give coach 24 hours notice in verbal or email. Unless there is an emergency, if you do not show for scheduled, coach will discreetly initiate for the next session available.

• If coach ever says or do anything that upsets you or doesn’t feel right, please bring it to coach attention so that we can resolve it as soon as possible. Our objective is to have a coaching relationship that is fully open, honest, with integrity and trust in our communication styles.

• Should you and coach determine that insufficient progress or cooperation exists after the initial first month, either party may cancel this agreement without recourse. Cancellations must be in writing by email or verbal during the session. No full refund is allowed.

 

Confidentiality:

 

Our coach recognises that certain information of a confidential manner may be relayed during regular sessions. Our coach will not at any time or places, either directly or indirectly, use any information or disclose said information to anyone else without your specific approval.

 

Disclaimer:

 

The client has been made aware that coaching results cannot be guaranteed.  The client has also been made aware that by entering into coaching, he/she understands that they are responsible for their own results. The client also agrees to hold the coach free from all liability and responsibility for any adverse situations created as a direct or indirect result of specific referral or advice given by the coach.

 

 

Reflection Questions

 

Please answer these questions as clearly and thoughtfully as possible, expressing the fullness of what you need or who you are. These are pondering questions designed to stimulate your self-discovery and be more productive when working with coach.

 

1. What is the biggest change you would like to make in your life, assuming you have the chance to do it right?

 

 

     2. If you decided to have coach, what is the first thing we would work on together?

 

 

     3. What’s the hesitation about getting started?

 

 

     4. How do you define success for yourself at this stage of your life?

 

 

     5. What are the three biggest challenges you are facing right now?

 

 

 

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